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50 Ways to Nurture Yourself

It is important to be able to do what you can to feel good on a daily basis. Then you are not dependent on others because you can nurture yourself. When you are self-caring you are not being selfish. In fact when you feel fulfilled, you then have more to give to others. Find out 50 ways you can give to yourself.

It is important to be able to do what you can to feel good on a daily basis. Then you are not dependent on others because you can nurture yourself. When you are self-caring you are not being selfish. In fact when you feel fulfilled, you then have more to give to others. The following suggestions will help you become aware of healthy ways you can give to yourself.
Put a check next to the things you would like to do to nurture yourself.

1. Take a bubble bath
2. Buy myself roses
3. Take a sauna
4. Get a massage
5. Take a bath by candlelight
6. Have breakfast in bed
7. Go to the pet store and play with the animals
8. Visit the zoo
9. Walk on a scenic path
10. Stop and smell the flowers
11. Have a manicure or pedicure
12. Wake up early and watch the sunrise
13. Watch the sunset
14. Relax with a good book and/or soothing music
15. Light the fireplace for myself
16. Play my favorite music and dance to it by myself
17. Go to bed early
18. Sleep outside under the stars
19. Stay in bed all day when I’m well
20. Fix a special dinner just for me and eat by candlelight
21. Participate in my favorite sport
22. Go for a walk
23. Take a walk in the rain
24. Run on the beach
25. Take a scenic drive
26. Meditate
27. Buy new underpants
28. Browse in a book or record store for as long as I want
29. Buy myself a cuddly stuffed animal
30. Write myself a love letter and mail it
31. Ask a special person to nurture me (examples: feed, cuddle, read to me)
32. Buy myself something special that I can afford
33. Go see a good film or show
34. Go to the park and feed the ducks, swing on the swings, etc.
35. Visit a museum or other interesting place
36. Go to the harbor and listen to the boats
37. Have a facial
38. Give myself a facial
39. Go into a hot tub or Jacuzzi
40. Record an affirmation tape
41. Write down my goals
42 Call an old friend
43. Bake or cook something special
44. Go window shopping
45. Buy a meditation tape
46. Listen to a positive, motivation tape
47. Write in my special book all my wins for the day
48. Gently apply a fragrant lotion all over my body
49. Call a new, supportive friend
50. Tell myself all the things I appreciate and love about me, and give myself a big hug.

Now that you know what you like to do, plan in your schedule specifically when you will do the things that you checked off. You deserve to feel good!

By Helene Rothschild

Empty Profiles – The Curse of the Dating Website

All dating websites rely heavily on the sincerity and responsibility of their membership in order to be successful, and most dating website owners will agree that the ideal dating community would have one hundred percent profile completion, with interesting and detailed information and at least one recent photo of each member. Unfortunately, that situation is so difficult to attain.

Most dating sites will inform members of the importance of adding photos to their profile, and many, including our own sugar daddy dating site, offer the facility of password protecting their personal pics so they are able to choose who will view them. However a staggering seventy-eight percent of dating site members we interviewed, informed us that they will only search for members who include a photograph with their profile.
I, personally can never understand how anyone can join a dating website and not bother to fill in his or her profile. How can they ever expect to create interest from other members, and my guess is they will not get a single response in their inbox. After all, your profile is your salespage. An opportunity to present yourself to the world.. describing not just your physical statistics but likes and dislikes, a brief synopsis of your character and a reasonably detailed description of your ideal mate. The addition of a photo or two will be sure to increase the level of interest in your profile by three hundred percent at very least.
So how do dating site owners encourage their membership to present a quality profile that will not only increase the chances of creating interest but also enhance the whole website, as we are all in agreement that incomplete profiles are a complete waste of time and space.

Although we have only recently launched our sugar daddy dating site, we have taken a fair yet strong stance in the problem of empty profiles. We do not believe that nagging the member with a constant stream of email reminders will entice them to return to the site, solely to complete their profile. Quite the reverse, in fact badgering would be more likely to ensure that the member never returned to the site again.
We firmly believe that the process of creating the profile needs to be completed at the time the user registers as a member. In an effort to ensure that the whole profile is completed during the registration process we have introduced an extension to the free membership period for those who create a complete profile at that time. So now, in addition to the thirty days free trial period, we offer a further thirty days to those who complete their profile at the time of registration. And to further discourage those who still decide to display no information, such profiles will auto-delete if not completed within seven days.
Any dating website can only be judged on it’s quality of membership, and whether joining as a free member or upgrading to paying member, once you register at a dating site you have a moral obligation to create a profile and present yourself to other members who have the same interest as you. Otherwise you have nothing to offer that particular dating community and there is little point in you registering to become a member.
Although it’s early days yet, the first signs are encouraging at our own sugar daddy dating site and we hope this move will enable us to to maintain a dating community with a one hundred percent profile completion, which can only benefit our genuine members.

By Trevor Taylor

Thai Wives – Why Are So Many Westerners Coming To Phuket To Marry?

Over the last decade, the number of mixed Thai-Western marriages on the Thai island of Phuket has exploded.  What is behind this phenomenon.

Here on the beautiful island of Phuket in Thailand, there are a great number of mixed Thai-Western marriages. It really is turning into quite a phenomenon. Around Phuket’s schools and playgrounds it is common to see mixed-race children happily playing with the 100% Thai kids. They are usually easy to spot with fairer skin, western features and non-black hair. A whole generation of culturally  diverse, multi-lingual children is growing up and will soon be quite an asset to Phuket’s tourist industry.
This phenomenon of mixed marriages in Phuket has really exploded over the last decade. Of course, the major reason is the expansion of Phuket’s tourist trade. When you have more than a million western visitors a year, it is natural that some of them will meet and fall in love with local people. Especially when the local people are so appealing.
But there must be more to it than that. The tourist resorts around the Mediterranean, Caribbean and US also receive millions of foreign visitors a year. There are mixed-nationality marriages at these resorts but not thousands in a small area like there are in Phuket.
One thing stands out when you look at Phuket’s ex-pat population -the vast majority of us are men. Probably around 90% of the ex-pat population is male. That is not the case when you look at the breakdown of tourist visitors where the split is only 60-40 in favour of males.

So while there are many women visiting Thailand, only a small percentage of them decide to settle here. It is probably a similar percentage to those that settle at other holiday resorts. But the men are marrying Thai women and settling here in numbers that way exceed what is typical elsewhere. There is an obvious conclusion to draw. There are a lot of men coming to Phuket to actively seek wives. They are not just falling in love while on holiday – they are coming with the pre-planned intent of finding a doe-eyed Thai beauty to be their spouse.
Many men seem to be dissatisfied with their experiences of women in their home country. Society has changed rapidly in the west over the last few decades. Women have become more confident and assertive. They can be intimidating to approach and fast with a withering put-down. They are much more demanding in their relationships and expect a lot of concessions from their partners.Many men do not like it. They still want the fifties ideal of a feminine, doting wife.
So they come to Thailand in search of the answer to their problem. Here, they believe they can still find women who are beautiful, feminine and attentive to their husband’s needs.
It is dangerous to generalise too much about the men who marry Thai girls and settle in Phuket. They all have their own story. Just the same, there are common patterns. You can place a lot of these men into three broad groups:

Group 1.  There are those that come to Phuket for ‘normal’ reasons such as work or a break from work. It is natural that some of these people will meet and fall in love with locals. This happens all over the world. There is no doubt that Thai women are very charming so perhaps it is more common here than elsewhere.
Group 2.  Then there are those who fall in love with their bargirl. The girls who work in the sex industry are good at selling themselves; it is their job. It is not usually the hardened sex-tourists that fall for their charms. They tend to pick up a new girl every night with no emotional attachment. It is the new guys. The men who come to Phuket for the first time, not quite knowing what to expect. They probably have an idea that they are going to pick up a prostitute but they don’t know how it works. They end up doing the GFE (girl friend experience). That is picking up a bar girl and then keeping her for the entire length of the holiday. They act as if they are boyfriend-girlfriend. The girl gets plenty of time to weave her magic. She tugs the guy’s heartstrings with her life story until he is brimming with sympathy. She gives him lots of affection and by the end of his holiday, he is in love. (see http://www.knowphuket.com/naughtynightlife.htm for more info).
Group 3.  Then there are those who come with the pre-planned intent of finding a wife. They have thought about it and come to the reasoned conclusion that a Thai wife would make their life better. Some of these guys will look for their new wife around the sex venues of Patong. Others want to stay away from the sex industry girls. They may try dating agencies or internet matching services. Some of them will try to meet ‘good’ Thai women away from the tourist resorts. Their approaches may vary but the conclusion is the same – they think a life in Phuket with a Thai wife would be better than their current life back home.

Whatever the reasons, the mixed Thai-Western marriage is now an established part of Phuket’s scenery. Not all of these Western men find their dream wife. Many of these marriages run into problems but that is true of marriages the world over. There can be extra problems related to marriages between people from different cultures. Still a lot of western men are very happy with their choice.

By James Spellman